親子心理教育講座會

日期：24-10-2009
時間：9am-11am
地點:HGH Convention Centre
項目：親子心理教育講座會
講題：【孩子好與壞 婚姻是關鍵】
主講：黃晉亮碩士

如題，婚姻美滿與否直接影響到孩子的好與壞。在這里，比較適合用于/形容幼兒園至小學的孩子。

怎樣才算婚姻不美滿？例如：家庭暴力，父親/母親有外遇，單親家庭。。。等
這些對孩子有怎樣的影響？
例如：家庭暴力-孩子會模仿父母以暴力解決問題；父親有外遇可以使到一個孩子有異常反應，像激動+哭到全身無力（連走路都沒力的那種）。也可以說是精神崩潰。

父母的性格和管教也直接影響到孩子長大后的性格。
例如：父母跟孩子一起玩樂，互相分享 - 孩子長大后會比較有自信，講話比較大聲和清晰；父母嚴厲管教孩子 - 孩子長大后會比較沒自信，常拿不定主意。

孩子成長過程中，父母的陪伴是極為重要的。雖然賺錢養家很重要，但是跟孩子的互動也是不能被忽略的。

在這個講座會，學會了新的東西。。。叫【游戲治療/Play Therapy】

遊戲治療是指透過遊戲來協助小孩 (一般是3歲至11歲) 去表達他們的感受和困難, 如恐懼、憎惡、孤獨、覺得失敗和自責等等，從而達到治療效果。事實上，遊戲是小朋友最自然的方式去表達自我，相對於成年人會透過「說話」來表達困難一樣。

遊戲治療主要是建基於心理分析學派的理論發展而成，指出兒童主要是透過遊戲來將內在的焦慮外顯化，並透過與遊戲治療師的互動，從而增加對自我行為和情緒的認識，並促進個人發展，加強自我面對困難時的信心和能力。

（載自：維基百科）

Play Therapy is the systematic use of a theoretical model to establish an interpersonal process wherein play therapists use the therapeutic powers of play to help clients prevent or resolve psychosocial challenges and achieve optimal growth and development. A working definition might be a form of counseling or psychotherapy that therapeutically engages the power of play to communicate with and help people, especially children, to engender optimal integration and individuation.

Play Therapy is often used as tool of diagnosis. A play therapist observes a client playing with toys (play-houses, pets, dolls, etc.) to determine the cause of the disturbed behavior. The objects and patterns of play, as well as the willingness to interact with the therapist, can be used to understand the underlying rationale for behavior both inside and outside the session.

According to the psychodynamic view, people (especially children) will engage in play behavior in order to work through their interior obfuscations and anxieties. In this way, play therapy can be used as a self-help mechanism, as long as children are allowed time for "free play" or "unstructured play." From a developmental point of view, play has been determined to be an essential component of healthy child development. Play has been directly linked to cognitive development.

One approach to treatment is for play therapists use a type of systematic desensitization or relearning therapy to change disturbing behavior, either systematically or in less formal social settings. These processes are normally used with children, but are also applied with other pre-verbal, non-verbal, or verbally-impaired persons, such as slow-learners, or brain-injured or drug-affected persons. Mature adults usually need much "group permission" before indulging in the relaxed spontaneity of play therapy, so a very skilled group worker is needed to deal with such guarded individuals.

Many mature adults find that "child's play" is so difficult and taboo, that most experienced group workers need specially tailored "play" strategies to reach them. Competent adult-group workers will use these play strategies to enable more unguarded spontaneity to develop in the non-childish student.

（source: wikipedia)

有小孩者還是幼教或小學老師。。。可以去研究這個【游戲治療】。小孩子的心理很難預測或猜測得到。任何刺激都能給他們非常大的心靈打擊。而這打擊可以是很深的，在他們內心深處。。。有時是不會表現在臉上。
要了解孩子的心理，煩惱可以重從觀察他們的言行舉止開始。

講座會完畢，4位學校的校長辦法紀念品給黃碩士。